Wedding Manual

 

Table of Contents

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 at our first meeting.

 

Date:   2 November 2014

 

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THIS PAGE WAS INTENTIONALLY LEFT BLANK FOR FUTURE USE................................................................................................... 7

MARRIAGE’S ADMINISTRATIVE TASKS....................................................... 8

Preparation For Marriage........................................................................ 9

I Am A Sacramento, California Wedding Officiant........................................ 10

Getting To Know Reverend Steve Whitters, D.D.......................................... 13

E-Mail Message Sent By Myself................................................................ 18

Your Wedding Ceremony Planning Session................................................. 20

Before You Continue............................................................................. 22

Choosing A Wedding Officiate.................................................................. 23

Wedding Ceremony Planning................................................................... 27

Ten Questions To Ask Your Officiate..........................  ............................... 29

Just Some Of My Certifications................................................................. 31

Types Of Wedding Ceremonies That I Perform............................................. 46

Types Of Religious Services That I Perform................................................. 48

In Addition To Wedding Ceremonies.......................................................... 52

What Are Wedding Coordinators............................................................... 53

How Do I Choose A Wedding Coordinator?.................................................. 55

THE MARRIAGE APPLICATION PROCESS..................................................... 57

Your Marriage Application....................................................................... 58

Getting Married In California................................................................... 60

Marriage License Information.................................................................. 63

COUNTY RECORDER’S OFFICES......................................... ..................... 65

Amador County................................................................................... 66

Contra Costa County Clerk-Recorder........................................................ 68

El Dorado County Marriage License Information.......................................... 70

Napa County....................................................................................... 75

Nevada County Recorders Office.............................................................. 77

Placer County Marriage License Information............................................... 79

Sacramento County Marriage License Information....................................... 83

San Joaquin County Marriage License Information....................................... 88

Solano County Marriage License Information.............................................. 93

Yolo County Recorder’s Office................................................................. 96

Yuba County Recorder’s Office...............................................................102

PRIOR TO THE WEDDING.....................................................................105

Before The Wedding Ceremony............................................................. 106

Downloadable Forms.......................................................................... 108

Pre-Marriage Counseling..................................................................... 115

Planning Your Ceremony..................................................................... 117

Positive Marriage Quotes..................................................................... 119

Love One-Liners................................................................................ 126

About Rehearsals.............................................................................. 131

CHOOSING A WEDDING LOCATION (VENUE)........................................... 133

Eleven Tips For The Perfect Outdoor Wedding.......................................... 134

Outdoor Wedding Tips For The Bride...................................................... 136

SACRAMENTO AND NAPA VALLEY AREA VENUES..... ................................. 137

Wedding Locations For Consideration..................... ............................... 138

Popular Sacramento Wedding Chapels................................................... 150

Catholic Ceremony Chapels................................................................. 151

Napa Valley Venues........................................................................... 152

CHILDREN IN THE WEDDING............................................................... 167

Making Parental Vows To The Children................................................... 168

How To Include Your Children Into Your Wedding..................................... 170

Combining Children Into The Wedding................................................... 174

Marriage Vows Including Children......................................................... 175

How Do You  Decide Whom To  Marry?.................................................. 176

Involving Parents In The Ceremony...................................................... 178

Grandparents As Ring Bearers And Flower Girls....................................... 180

Top Twenty Wedding Day Stress Busters................................................ 181

CHOOSING MUSIC FOR THE WEDDING.................................................. 184

The Use Of Music In A Wedding Ceremony.............................................. 185

Choosing The Music For Your Wedding Ceremony..................................... 187

How Many Songs Are Usually Played During The Ceremony?....................... 189

What To Ask Your Wedding Musicians Or Deejay....................................... 191

Blessed Are The Cheesemakers............................................................ 194

The Last Supper................................................................................ 196

Wedding Theme Samples.................................................................... 197

Religious And Philosophical Expression.................................................... 200

To God Or Not To God........................................................................ 202

Wedding Ceremony Order................................................................... 204

Fundamental Differences Of Wedding Styles............................................ 209

SAMLES OF WEDDING CEREMONIES...................................................... 211

Basic Ceremony #1........................................................................... 212

Basic Ceremony #2........................................................................... 216

Beach Wedding................................................................................. 218

Catholic Lite Ceremony....................................................................... 222

Celebrate One Of Life’s Greatest Moments............................................... 227

Christian Ceremony #1....................................................................... 230

Christian Ceremony #2....................................................................... 233

Generic Wedding Booklet..................................................................... 237

~ Moment Of Remembrance ~............................................................. 253

One Of My Favorite Ceremonies............................................................ 259

Old Traditional Ceremony.................................................................... 262

Touched By Love................................................................................ 265

Traditional Ceremony With Contemporary Flavor....................................... 271

Traditional/Religious Ceremony #1......................................................... 274

Traditional/Religious Ceremony #2......................................................... 277

Wine Box And Love Letter Ceremony....................................................... 282

LET’S START THE WEDDING.................................................................. 284

1st Musical Rendition (Prelude).............................................................. 285

2nd Music Rendition (Wedding Party Processional)..................................... 286

The Flower Girl #1 of 3........................................................................ 287

Flower Girl Duties In Detail #2 of 3.........................................................290

Things Flower Girls Can Drop In The Wedding Other Than Flowers #3 of 3........291

The Ring Bearer..................................................................................294

Page Boys, Coin Bearers, Bible Bearers, And Readers..................................297

Include Your Pet................................................................................. 299

Entrance Of The Bridal Party.................................................................. 301

3rd Musical Rendition, Usually “Here Comes The Bride”................................ 302

Bride’s Processional............................................................................. 303

Entering By The Love Of Many.................................................................306

Presentation/Giving Away Of The Bride (And/Or Groom) #1 of 2.................... 307

Presentation/Giving Away Of The Bride #2 of 2.......................................... 309

Giving Away The Bride - History............................................................. 311

Facing The Audience - The Ultimate Presentation........................................ 312

Backs To Audience – The Traditional Format.............................................. 314

Facing Each Other – Hand In Hand.......................................................... 316

Angelology One Liners..........................................................................317

Opening Words.................................................................................. 320

Welcoming Of The Guests.....................................................................328

“In Memory Of” Ceremony................................................................... 332

In Memorial.......................................................................................337

Five Ways to Make Your Guests A Meaningful Part Of  Your Wedding.............. 339

First Prayer....................................................................................... 341

Statement Of Purpose.......................................................................... 344

First Scripture Reading......................................................................... 347

Second Scripture Reading......................................................................350

Wedding Bible Verses............................................................................351

Marriage........................................................................................... 352

Love.................................................................................................355

Life.................................................................................................. 357

Negative Questioning........................................................................... 359

Declaration Of Intent/Consent................................................................ 360

Traditional Ways To Say “I do.”.............................................................. 363

Pledge Of Support............................................................................... 366

Sermon.............................................................................................367

A Reading From Ruth............................................................................368

UNITY CEREMONY ANYONE?.................................................................. 369

Unity Ceremonies............................................................................... 370

Blessing With Holy Water Or Oils............................................................ 375

Bouquet Of Love And Support.................................................................378

Bread, Salt And Wine Ceremony............................................................ 380

Breaking Glass - Jewish Wedding Tradition #1...........................................382

The Breaking Glass - Jewish Wedding Tradition #2..................................... 383

Broom Jumping...................................................................................385

Butterfly Releases...............................................................................388

Coin Ceremony...................................................................................391

Filipino Unity Ceremony........................................................................392

Mothers Rose Presentation.................................................................... 399

Sand Ceremony Samples #1 – #9.......................................................... 400

Family Sand Ceremony #10.................................................................. 403

Family Unity Sand Ceremony #11.......................................................... 404

4th Musical Rendition........................................................................... 405

WEDDING VOWS................................................................................ 406

Wedding Vows & Readings.....................................................................407

20+ Tips for Writing Your Own Vows....................................................... 410

In The Words Of Lovers........................................................................414

Marriage Vows................................................................................... 430

Sample Wedding Vows......................................................................... 431

One. When Love Beckons...................................................................... 437

Two. May This Day Shine Eternally.......................................................... 439

Three. Welcome To The Celebration!........................................................ 441

Four. Witness And Share The Joy............................................................. 443

Five. Enter Days Of Togetherness............................................................ 445

THE MARRIAGE CONTINUES................................................................... 448

Sign Of Peace...................................................................................... 449

The Ring Ceremony.............................................................................. 450

5th Musical  Rendition............................................................................ 456

Closing/Second Prayer........................................................................... 457

Closing Prayers And Blessing................................................................... 459

Pronouncement Of Marriage.................................................................... 461

You May Kiss Your Wife.......................................................................... 462

Introduction Of The New Couple............................................................... 463

6th Musical Rendition During Recessional.................................................... 464

Recessional By The Wedding Party............................................................ 465

7th And Last Musical Rendition (Postlude).................................................... 466

AFTER THE CEREMONY........................................................................... 467

Picture Taking...................................................................................... 471

The Blessing At The Reception.................................................................. 472

Blessings And Graces To Give Thanks Before A Meal.......................................474

CHANGING OF LAST NAMES......................................................................478

Change Of Wife’s Last Name.....................................................................479

Here Is A Partial Listing Of People, Places And Things That You Might Want

To Notify Or Change................................................................................480

Frequently Asked Questions About Name Changes..........................................484

Debunking The Rice-Throwing Myth............................................................ 485

PRICE LIST AND QUESTIONNAIRE.............................................................. 488

Comfort Items....................................................................................... 490

Use This One For Your Own Price Sheet........................................................ 491

Military Discount..................................................................................... 492

Questionnaire To Be Filled Out................................................................... 493

Additional Notes..................................................................................... 498

TOO NEW TO INDEX................................................................................ 499

END OF MANUAL..................................................................................... 500