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Weddings With A Blessing by:

Reverend Steve Whitters, D.D.

Telephone: (916) 214-3980



7975 Springarden Way

Sacramento, California95828


The Wedding Ceremony  




Steve Joe Whitters


Christine Anne Gonzales



October 9th, 2013

12:00 PM


Grand Wedding Occasions

6811 Fair Oaks Blvd

Carmichael, California



I ask the impossible: love me forever.
Love me when all desire is gone.
Love me with the single-mindedness of a monk.
When the world in its entirety,
and all that you hold sacred advise you against it: love me still more.
When rage fills you and has no name: love me.
When each step from our door to your job tires you--
love me; and from job to home again, love me, love me.

Love me when you're bored--
love me as you always have:
not as admirer or judge, but with
the compassion you save for yourself
in your solitude. Love me forever.

Love me as you relish your loneliness,
the anticipation of your death,
mysteries of the flesh, as it tears and mends.

Love me as your most treasured childhood memory--
and if there is none to recall--
imagine one, place me there with you.
Love me withered as you loved me new.

Love me as if I were forever--
and I, will make the impossible
a simple act,
by loving you, loving you as I do.


Wedding Ceremony Order

Bridal Processional 


Flower Girl

  Ring Bearer

   Matron of Honor

Best Man

                                                             Bride and Father                                                                

Giving the Bride Away
Father or close family friend gives the bride away. Clergy may acknowledge the presence of guests.


We must be in heaven, because I see two beautiful Angels standing in front of me.


Remarks Given by the Pastor

Opening Quote

Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.

First Prayer
Clergy offers a blessing of prayer from the Bible.

        Negative Questioning

                                                                    Does Anyone Object?

                            (If anyone knows of any reason why this couple should not marry...)


                                         The Reverend asks a question to the congregation.


Vows to Each Other

                                                               From Steve and Christine


Declation of Consent
                    Reverend confirms you are both here according to your own free will.


First Sermon

                                                               Presented by the Reverend

Unity Ceremonies


Marriage Vows
Traditional vows are exchanged.

The Blessing Of The Rings

Ring Exchange
Rings are presented, blessed and exchanged.


Hand Blessing


Hand Fasting and Hand Wrapping


Irish Wedging Blessing


Groom & Bride Embrace in a Kiss


Celtic Loving Cup Ceremony


Anointing of Holy Oils

Closing Quote

Keep the fire lit in your marriage and your life will be filled with warmth.


Pronounced as Husband and Wife


Presentation of Husband and Wife

Couple, then bridal party exits the sanctuary.


Giving the Bride Away


Who presents Christine to be married to Steve?


Answer: I, Richard and her mother Rachel do.  


Pastor: “From the bottom of all our hearts, we sincerely thank you”.




Dearly beloved, we are gathered here this momentous day to witness  this couple in Holy Matramony. As a minister of Christ, and in behalf of the families of the bride and groom, I whole heartedly welcome all of you to this glorious day.   

Friends and Family, we have been invited here today to share with Steve and Christine a very important moment in their lives. In the many years they have known each other, their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife.

As we lift into the loving that joins us together here as one,
let us surround
Steve and Christine
with our love, our prayers, and our best wishes for them on this day of celebration and throughout their journey together as husband and wife.

Steve and Christine, you have come to know the power of love in your lives. And so we celebrate this union of your hearts, minds, bodies, and souls. And we wish you great joy along the path that you have chosen to embark upon.


First Prayer


The following is a quote from Genesis 1:28.


Then God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth."


Negative Questioning

Now therefore, if any man can show any just cause, why Steve and Christine may not lawfully be joined together, by God's Law, or the Laws of this Kingdom; let them now speak, or else hereafter forever behold their peace.


 Affirmation of Family and Friends


Now in the spirit of Joy and affirmation, I want to ask your families and friends a question.


Do you, the families and friends of Steve and Christine, give them your blessing and support this day, wishing them a wonderful life together?


                     Family and Friends should respond:  We do.   


Vows To Each Other


             Do each of you have vows you want to say to each other?

Steve, please recite to Christine:

There was darkness for a long time, and then there was light, and that light was you. Your love has given me wings, and our journey begins today. I pledge before you and this assembly of Friends and Family, to be your husband from this day forward. Let us make of our two lives one life. I want you for today, tomorrow, and forever.


Christine, Please recite to Steve.

I have dreamed my whole life of having someone as wonderful as you love me the way you do. I give myself to you as your wife, and I promise here to treasure for all of my days, the love we celebrate today. Let us bring together our lives and find ourselves anew each day.


Declaration of Intent/Consent


 The bride and groom face each other, and each state their intention to live in the state of matrimony, faithfully to each other alone.


To Groom:

Steve, do you take this woman to be your wife, to live together in the holy covenant of Marriage?  Will you love her, comfort her, honor her, cherish her, and keep her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, being faithful to her so long as you both shall live?


If so, answer, “I Will”, or “I Do” or “I Shall”. 


To Bride:

Christine, do you take this man to be your husband, to live together in the holy covenant of Marriage?  Will you love him, comfort him, honor him, cherish him, and keep him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, being faithful to him so long as you both shall live?  

If so, answer, “I Will”, or “I Do”, or “I Shall”. 




Marriage is one of the most important decisions a couple will make.  Marriage is the clasping of hands, the blending of hearts, the union of two lives as one.  Your marriage here today must stand, not by the authority of the State, nor by the seal on your wedding certificate, but by the strength of your love and by the power of your faith in each other and in God. 


You can have this kind of home if you continue to recognize God as the source of romance and love and affection, for these are his gifts to you.  Build your home on a spiritual foundation.


With God, you will have everything; without him, you will have nothing.


The Marriage Vows


Steve, please repeat after me.


                                     Repeating after the Reverend

I Steve, take you Christine, to be my lawfully wedded wife. Before these witnesses, I vow to love you, and care for you, as long as we both shall live. I take you, with all your faults, and your strengths, as I offer myself to you, with my faults and strengths. I will help you, when you need help, and I will turn to you, when I need help. I choose you, as the person with, whom I will spend my life.

Christine, please repeat after me.


                                     Repeating after reverend.


I, Christine, take you Steve, to be my lawfully wedded husband. Before these witnesses, I vow to love you, and care for you, as long as we both shall live. I take you, with all your faults, and your strengths, as I offer myself to you, with my faults and strengths. I will help you, when you need help, and I will turn to you, when I need help. I choose you, as the person with, whom I will spend my life.


The Ring Ceremony


This is almost always follows immediately after the vows.  It is, in fact, an extension of the exchange of vows.


Do you have rings to exchange with each other? 

Yes we do.


May I have the rings please.


Having this kind of love in your hearts, you have chosen to exchange rings as the sign and seal of the vows you are making today.


(Take the rings from the best man).

While holding the rings say:

Though small in size, these rings are very large in significance.  Made of precious metal, they remind us that love is neither cheap nor common; indeed, love may cost us dearly.

Made in a circle, their design tells us that love must never come to an end, we must keep in continuous. 

As you wear these rings, whether together or apart for a moment, may they be constant reminders of these glad promises that you are making today.


Steve to Christine:

Repeating after the Reverend.

Christine, I give you this ring, as a symbol, of my love for you.


Let it be a reminder, that I am always, by your side, and that I will always be, a faithful partner to you.  

Christine to Steve:


Repeating after the Reverend.


Steve, I give you this ring, as a symbol, of my love for you.


Let it be a reminder, that I am always, by your side, and that I will always be, a faithful partner to you.


Hand Blessing

"Steve and Christine", please face each other and hold hands.

"Christine ", these are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you.

These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

"Steve", these are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief wracks your mind.

These are the hands that will hold your children in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands then even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

And so we ask God ...

Please bless these hands that you see before you this day.
May they always be held by one another.
Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the darkness of disillusionment.
Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love.
Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace,
Rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection.
May Groom and Bride see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.
We render this prayer in Jesus' name, Amen.


Hand Fasting and Hand Wrapping


Please keep in mind that it is your day, and that your wishes are paramount. Your colors are your choices. Your colors' meaning to you overrides anyone else's interpretation.

Handfasting wedding ceremonies are Celtic wedding rituals.  It involves the tying of hands together to symbolize the coming together and remaining tied together.  One possible wedding vow during the hand fasting is this sample:


"As this knot is tied, so are your lives now bound.  Woven into this cord, into its very fibers, are all the hopes of your friends and family, and of yourselves, for your new life together. With the entwining of this knot do I tie all the desires, dreams, love, and happiness wished here in this place to your lives for as long as love shall last.

In the joining of hands and the fashion of a knot, so are your lives now bound, one to another. By this cord you are thus bound to your vow.  May this knot remain tied for as long as love shall last.

May this cord draw your hands together in love, never to be used in anger. May the vows you have spoken never grow bitter in your mouths.

Two entwined in love, bound by commitment and fear, sadness and joy, by hardship and victory, anger and reconciliation, all of which brings strength to this union. Hold tight to one another through both good times and bad, and watch as your strength grows. 

Remember that it is not this physical cord, but what it represents, that keeps you together.

You have chosen to incorporate the ancient ritual of hand-fasting into your ceremony today. It is the Celtic tradition of binding two people in love together. It symbolically honors the binding of your lives and your destinies.

As part of this hand-fasting, it is customary to invoke the energies of the four cardinal directions and their natural elements to create a sacred circle into which you are joined. With full awareness, know that within this circle you are not only declaring your intent to be hand-fasted and wed before your friends and family, but you speak that intent to your creative higher powers. The promises made today and the ties that are bound here greatly strengthen your union and will cross the years and lives of each soul’s growth. 


Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?


Yes We Do.

And so it is we come together in the creation of this sacred circle. As we do so we ask the One Living Spirit, the omnipresent God, to guide us in this work, to bless these rites and this union.

Grant Steve and Christine harmony and beauty in their lives and let them ever be mindful of this commitment to one another. 

For openness and breath, communication of the heart, and purity of the mind and body.

From the East you receive the gift of a new beginning with the rising of each Sun, and the understanding that each day is a new opportunity for growth.

Blessed be this union with the gifts of the South and the element of fire, as represented by the red ribbon – for energy, passion, creativity and the warmth of a loving home.

From the fire within you generate light, which you will share with one another in even the darkest of times.

Blessed be this union with the gifts of the West, and the element of water, as represented by the black ribbon – for your capacity to feel emotion.

In marriage you offer absolute trust to one another, and vow to keep your hearts open in sorrow as well as joy.

Steve and Christine, the Infinity Symbol has no beginning or end, it represents infinite possibility, balance and harmony, and love that will go on forever.

Please join your right palms, and then your left palms to form the infinity symbol and as you do, join your hearts as well. I bid you now, look in one another’s eyes.

Will you honor and respect one another, and seek to never break that honor?

Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it?

Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

We will.

Will you share each other's laughter, and look for the brightness in life and the  positive in each other?

We will.


Irish Wedding Blessing

May God give you...

For every storm, a rainbow,

For every tear, a smile,

For every care, a promise,

And a blessing in each trial.

For every problem life sends,

A faithful friend to share,

For every sigh, a sweet song,

And an answer for each prayer.


 You May Kiss the Bride


Steve, you may kiss the Bride.


                                     Celtic Loving Cup Ceremony

Below is something that one of my couples came with the other day. I thought some of you might be interested.

"Steve and Christine have now made their vows, pronounced their "I-Dos" and exchanged rings. On this wedding day we celebrate the Celtic spirit of anam cara. Anam cara is translated from the Gaelic as "soul friend". By entering in a partnership with your anam cara, you are joined in an ancient and eternal way with this person whom you must cherish. In everyone's life there is a great need for an anam cara for the balance of man and woman is a vital part of the balance of nature.

To the ancients the four elements were always earth, water, wind and fire. Christine and Steve will you now come to the altar to combine these in a symbolic act of life and love?

Couple step to behind the altar.

Your lives have burned as individual flames.
Let them now burn together as one.
Please take your candles and together create a new flame; then extinguish the old.

The couple hold lighted candles to the central unlit candle. When the flame is lit they blow out their own candles., and place the hurricane glass over it

We need water to live. And by the virtues of sunshine, the vine, grapes and yeast the waters turns at last to wine. And now, please, drink to your love you've shared in the past.

The couple take turns to drink from the loving cup.

Drink to your love in the present, on this your wedding day.

Groom drinks from the cup

And drink to your love in the future and forever more.

Bride drinks from the cup

The wind is the soul, the spirit, the very breath of life. Until you die few things will ever be more intimate than that subtle infusion of air and the touch of lips when you kiss. You may kiss the bride one last time before I publicly pronounce you as husband and wife.

The couple kiss.

Before the ceremony began those of you in the bridal party were given a small, polished stone. We must not forget the rock from which we are hewn, the very earth on which we live. However fickle and variable the ways of mankind, there lies within us all something solid, unshakable, unmovable – like a rock. I ask you now to take in your hand that rock, find within yourself that piece of sure foundation that you would share with
Christine and Steve
and for a moment close your eyes, focus on that inner strength as though you could bundle it up in a rock. Visualize the future you wish for this couple and engrave it in stone.

A moment of silence.

This is your gift to this couple, they have now become Blessing Stones, made special by your love. Will you please come and place your stone in the snifter as an offering of friendship, support, and solidarity for their marriage

Stones are placed in the dish

, please cover these rocks with water.

The Groom pours water over the pebbles.

, please float the candle on top of the water.

The Bride floats the Claddagh candle

Let these stones be an unending testimony to the strength upon which your marriage is founded, and a reminder of the friends and family who love you and honor your bond as husband and wife."


Anointing of Holy Oils


Steve and Christine have asked to be blessed with Holy Oils from Jordon. 

A vessel containing the Holy Oil to be blessed is placed before him. Facing the people, he invites them to pray, using these or similar words: 

Dear friends, this Oil will be used to remind us of our baptism. Ask God to bless it, and to keep us faithful to the Spirit he has given us.  Steve and Christine; dear friends; this Holy Oil will be used to remind us of our baptism. Ask God to bless it, and to keep us faithful to the Spirit he has given us. 

After a brief silence, I join hands and continue: 

    God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit; your gift of Oils and Water brings life and freshness to the earth; it washes away our sins and brings us eternal life.

Lord God almighty, creator of all life, of body and soul, we ask you to bless + this Oil: as we use it in faith, forgive our sins and save us from all illnesses, and the power of evil. Lord; in your mercy give us living Oils and water, always springing up as a fountain of salvation: free us, body and soul, from every danger, and admit us to your presence in purity of heart. Grant this through Jesus our Lord. 

Steve; + I bless you with this of Holy Oil, through the name of our Heavenly Father, His Son Jesus of Nazarene, and of the Holy Spirit.  

Christine; + I bless you with this Holy Oil, through the name of our Heavenly Father, His Son Jesus of Nazarene, and of the Holy Spirit. 

Present the Bottle of Holy Oil to Steve and Christine.


                                     Pronouncement of Marriage


The minister declares the couple to be husband and wife.


Steve and Christine, I now pronounce you: Husband and Wife.

Those whom God hath joined together let no man put asunder.


                              Introduction of the New Couple


Ladies and Gentlemen, it is with great pleasure and honor that I present to you:


Mr. & Mrs. Steve Whitters.






Guests of Honor


 Steve Joe Whitters


Christine Anne Gonzales


Mr. and Mrs. Richard and Rachel  Gonzales


Reverend Steve Whitters, D.D.

Best Man

 Michael J. Whitters

Maid of Honor

Linda Sue Meyers 

Flower Girl

Miss Marissa Gonzales

Ring Bearer

Mr. Michael Gonzales


Rachel Smith

Bonnie Jones


This Is Just The Beginning



       From Revered Whitters: 

    It was a blessing from the beginning.


    I wholeheartedly wish you two the best of things in life.  I will ask for an Earth Angel to be with each of you, to guide you, to protect you, to help you, and to be with you for the rest of your lives.


Reverend Steve Whitters